Two years ago my dad needed a quadruple bypass and to have 3 heart valves replaced. The surgery came with risks. There was a 10 – 15% risk of death during or shortly after surgery. My family arranged a meeting with my dad’s surgeon where the entire family could ask questions about the surgery.
The surgeon walked into the simple exam room to meet with us. He greeted us, shook our hands and took a seat across from my dad. I was the first to ask a question. “If my dad doesn’t have this surgery, what are we looking at doctor?”
The surgeon expertly handled my question, all of our questions. I noticed how calm we were as we took in the bad news the doctor was delivering. There’s a lot customer service professionals can learn from doctors when it comes to delivering bad news.
Doctors, surgeons and trauma teams are strategically trained and highly skilled in delivering bad news. In fact, doctors who deliver bad news best have mastered 3 things: Attitude, Clarity and Openness to Questions.
Watch this short YouTube video where I explain The 3 Keys Doctors Use to Deliver Bad News
1. Attitude of the News-Giver
My dad’s surgeon was fully present with us. He spoke warmly with appropriate empathy. Not too much empathy, just enough and he was direct. He faced me squarely and responded.
“If your dad does not have this surgery, he’s looking at one of 3 outcomes. He will be dead in less than two years. Or, he will be confined to a wheelchair because his body will be so frail and weak. Another possible outcome is he will be bedridden.”
While the news is certainly not what any of us wanted to hear, I noticed how well we took in the news. My dad and mom had, of course, heard the news before. But this was my first time hearing the news from the surgeon.
The surgeon’s attitude, an attitude of full presence, confidence, directness and empathy, helped prepare us to receive the news.
2. Clarity of the Message
I followed up my first question with, “What are the risks of this surgery?” The surgeon explained that there was, in fact, a risk of death during or after surgery, a 10-15% risk of death. “But if my dad should suffer a stroke or heart attack in surgery, he’s in the best place for this to happen, right? He’s with a team of doctors and surgeons.”
This is where the clarity really came in. The surgeon said, “I’m telling you that the risks are there. If your dad were to experience a stroke, heart attack or other complication while in surgery, we’ll do all we can. I cannot guarantee your father will make it through this surgery.”
The surgeon was clear. He didn’t waste words and he didn’t sugarcoat the news. He gave it to us straight, which is what we needed.
3. Openness to Questions
I had more questions, lots, and so did my family. The surgeon confidently responded to each of our questions and encouraged us to ask all that we needed.
He was patient and knowledgeable, backing up everything he stated with facts. We felt comfortable asking questions and none of us felt that our questions were too much or dumb.
The bottom line
Arm your employees with doctor’s skills for delivering bad news. Help them cultivate an attitude of empathy, walk them through how to be clear, direct and concise and make sure they make customers feel completely comfortable asking questions. When you do these things, your employees will deliver bad news with ease and without backlash.
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